Safer Sex Talk

So, a couple nights ago B and I talked about my "take condoms" comment and how he knew I was teasing him.

I confessed that I was *mostly* teasing him, but there was a serious element to it, too.  This was the perfect time to have the safer sex talk. 

I explained that I'd prefer it if he were to be with someone else that he wear condoms.  He totally understood and agreed.  I told him it was a deal breaker.  And it is.

He told me that if were ever to have sex with someone else it would be a big deal for him and something we'd talk about *together*.  He wouldn't just spring it on me.  That was very reassuring and I was so thankful that he actually vocalized it.

I told him that I had a brief moment of panic when he said he was going out to meet up with T.  I also told him that I was more comfortable with entering into a relationship with an OSO if they already had an OSO as opposed to them acquiring one while we were dating.  I made sure he understood that I wasn't trying to lay down any rules or anything, that I would most definitely try to deal with my issues should that arise.  He understood why I felt that way.  In the mono world when another person enters the picture someone always has to leave.  It's just how we're conditioned.

I am really lucky to have a partner who will actually talk to me about things.  A, my wife, and I are constantly communicating and it's nice to have a boy in my life that's communicative, too.